“Women Entrepreneurship – Women who innovate, initiate, organize, and run a business enterprise. It’s the process where women organize all the factors of production, undertake risks, and provide employment to others.
You have to admit that sounds so exciting doesn’t it? Being your own boss, providing employment for people who need it while being innovative and having the ability to be creative? It is truly awesome. But what they don’t put in the description is doing all those amazing things while you take care of kids, animals, partners, sick family members, daily home front stuff and who knows what else. How the hell can we possibly fit all that in?
Well, I think that’s where the innovation comes in. Innovation is the ability to produce new ideas and provide better solutions. That is exactly what you better be able to do to run your business and everything else in your life that can’t seem to run without you. Let me tell you some ugly truths, maybe you can relate. There were nights I stayed up all night with a sick toddler, which I am sure many of you have done. But that client is waiting, we can’t worry about sleep. My three-year-old finally fell asleep and the baby was due to wake up in 5 minute. No problem all I need is 1 minute to shower and the other 4 for getting dressed, makeup and making a bottle. Done and done just in time. My daughter starts crying, I got this with time to spare. I feed her while the babysitter walks in, I am all ready to roll. Just as I say hello and goodbye, and lovingly hand her off while I explain where the instructions for the day, guess what happens? Yeap, she throws up all over me. So now as I am ripping off my clothes as I am walking up the stairs, I am also calling my client to explain I will be ten minutes late and I am apologizing profusely. I get through the day, closed a sale, and life happens.
There were the many times my husband would drive me to my appointment while my 1-year-old son and my 3 and 5-year-old daughters were in the car with us. We would pack food, and yes sometimes go through a drive through so while I was on the appointment the girls would eat and of course, I fed my son in the car before I got.out. There were the embarrassing times the bell would ring 20 minutes into an appointment because someone choked or threw up, that was always amusing. I have put on 2 different shoes more times than I’d like to admit. I’ve worn different articles of clothing inside out or on backwards, and even the occasional tear or ripped seam has been witnessed.
Let’s see, I have closed sales on the phone in emergency rooms, waiting rooms and Dr.s offices. I have kept a smile on my face for the whole day for my associates and clients, I’ve come into the house smiling to hug and kiss my children goodnight only to go in the bathroom to shower and sob for 20 minutes, sometimes on my knees. People have been rude to me on multiple occasions, I have been offered cocktails, gifts and other things for giving a sales presentation instead of closing the sale. Oh and my favorite I still get lost to this day when I have to drive to an unfamiliar place for an event, yes even with GPS. I have been called materialistic, a workaholic, a dreamer and more by family and good friends. Of course, I was also told to get a real job like everyone else. I’ve lost longtime friends, my husband and I have had nasty, dragged out name calling/object throwing fights, in private and in front of people. And it still isn’t easy running one business with your spouse and another with your work wife.
So, why do I tell you these ugly truths nobody ever wants to talk about? Well, it’s a conversation that has to be had to help all the other women entrepreneur’s that are out there struggling and juggling, and because I have been there, and I still am there. I can proudly tell you that 25 years later I am still a successful entrepreneur. I have 4 awesome children 26, 23 1/2. 21 and 16. I also have an unbelievable 1-year-old granddaughter. I have awesome friends new and old, an awesome and unbelievable business partner, amazing women I am surrounded with all the time, and yes I am still married lol. At the end of the day, you have to always remember why you started this journey of entrepreneurship. Your spouses won’t always understand but will respect and support your drive and passion. Your kids will get pissed off when you can’t do everything they want, but who can? And let’s be honest, what child doesn’t get pissed off at something you did or didn’t do anyway? The truth is that they will copy that drive passion and compassion you have always shown them and someday find their own way and hopefully their own passion, with admiration and respect for you. Never use your children as the reason not to do something, do it for your children. They will appreciate it someday.
Your quality time gets so much better when you are all in the Caribbean together for 10 days, and all summer you go to the beach whenever you want, one day and one weekend day a week at least. We never miss happy hour date nights, even if we fought all day, because I make my schedule. I also am blessed with all the lives I have changed, for so many families, financially because of the time and effort I have put into them. I also love the time my partner (AKA work wife) and I are able to work on giving back and helping women and children who need us. All because I made a decision to never give up.
The most important thing I can tell you right now is, find a group of like-minded women who will support you no matter what and who understand you. This will be crucial for your success and your sanity! You were destined to be something great, so why settle for average and ordinary? Never ever give up on your goals and dreams, regardless of the challenges you will face, because I promise you that in the end, it’s all worth it.”
“Expect the unexpected, and whenever possible, be unexpected.” – Lynda Barry
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