Do you ever just feel like you are stuck in a parking lot and you don’t know how to get out? I definitely have! This emotion often results from being frozen with fear, and it’s normal to feel this way.
When we are afraid our subconscious tells us to go in and seek comfort. So we park in the lot where we are safe and stay there. So what do we do when we feel this way? The answer is, we need to step back and try to identify what it is we are really afraid of. Three of the top reasons most people feel this freezing sort of fear are:
- Fear of failure – Can I do this? What happens if I can’t?
- Fear of rejection – What if they say no? What if that person doesn’t like me?
- Fear of not being perfect – What if I make a mistake? What will people think of me? Will people think I don’t know my craft?
We all have these moments. The difference between staying stuck and moving forward is what you decide to do at this pivotal moment. The number one thing all successful people do the moment they feel this is they simply take action. They overcome this apprehension and pull through anyway. It sounds easy, but sometimes getting started is the hardest part. Following these 3 steps can help you take the leap:
- Make the decision – When you decide that you are going to take action in spite of how you feel you are putting your fear to death. Do the things you fear the most and the death of this fear is certain! This has always been one of my strongest affirmations.
- Transform your mind – What are you telling yourself? Start a personal development program: read books on fear, listen to CD’s, go to conferences & workshops. In other words, work on yourself. If you do not change your thinking you will never change. It takes work, just like becoming physically active does.
- Pull up your big girl panties – You can’t be an entrepreneur and be a sissy at the same time. (“There’s no crying in baseball!”) You have to toughen up a little bit and not take things personally. Listen, I struggle with this one the most. You have to work on it all the time. When a client says no to me, do I feel bad? Quite frankly, yes; but I have a very fast pity party and move on. It isn’t me they aren’t interested in personally in most cases; it could be a number of things. Pick yourself up and dust yourself off. You’ve still got this!
The best advice I can give you is to spend time with people who support and energize you. When you are going through these tough times you will need the support system. Likewise, change takes an effort. There is no secret sauce that someone is going to send you. Nobody can fix your situation but you. “If it is to be, it is up to me” hung on my wall from the day I opened my office. You can procrastinate, but time will not wait for you. You can’t get your time back. So just go out there, get it done and you will feel liberated! You will have left the parking lot and made it onto the open road where anything is possible!
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